Sometimes The Truth Sucks
March 15, 2006
I usually tell people to rely on their own instinct and their own judgement to make decisions. Most of the time, I think this is good advice. But sometimes it isn’t. Especially when feelings are involved. When you care about something your feelings can cloud even the best of judgments. Instincts can be fooled or even suppressed by strong feelings.
When you want something, you want it… regardless of what reason and rationale tell you. If you tell yourself something long enough, you can convince yourself of almost anything. The opposite is also true. If you ignore that voice in the back of your head long enough, it eventually goes mute. Over time, the reality of a situation is anything but real. Instead, it becomes something constructed… the product of irrational, illogical thinking. And while we could spend an eternity debating what reality is or isn’t, we won’t. If reality is simply a construct of the mind, I think it should be, at the very least, rational. And logical.
Sometimes it takes a 3rd party perspective to make you realize the obvious. The closer you are to a situation, the harder it is to see things the way they really are. And there’s no guarantee that you’ll even hear another perspective. You could beat me over the head relentlessly with your perspective and I may still ignore you. I may distort what you say and twist your words into something that I want to hear. You may not even intend to tell me something. Your intention may have nothing to do with opening my eyes.
But my eyes might still open. And once they’re open, I have to deal with what I see. It may be the scariest thing I’ve ever seen. It may be the last thing I ever thought I’d see. My eyes can play tricks on me. They can make me see things that aren’t there. But they can also show me things I don’t necessarily want to see. That doesn’t mean I can ignore them.
I just have to find the balls to ignore what I want to see… and see what I need to. And then I have to deal with that.
Sometimes… the truth really sucks.
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